Wednesday, April 20, 2011

This Wednesday: make a good first impression.

  • Every Wednesday is Tip Day. 
    This Wednesday: make a good first impression.
    n      smile and lean toward others as they talk
    n      if standing, keep your body fully facing the people you’re speaking with
    n      ask questions and follow up on people’s remarks; and in doing so, focus on opinions and feelings, not just facts
    n      don’t interrupt
    n      compliment others
    n      try to find common experiences or interests
    n      mention some vulnerabilities and laugh at yourself
    n      draw others out and encourage people to join the conversation
    n      put energy in your voice
    n      at least at the start, focus on positive comments, not criticisms or complaints
    n      offer a variety of topics
    n      share observations about everyday life
    n      share your passions and interests
    n      don’t dwell on the minutiae of your life, especially annoyances
    n      remember: people give more weight to their early information (were you engaged, warm, distracted, pompous?) than to later information, so be your most charming at the beginning of the conversation
    n      remember: most people are more eager to be found interesting, funny, or insightful than to be interested, amused, or informed by you
    For a fascinating, highly practical book on this topic, read Ann Demarais and Valerie White's First Impressions.

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